I thought I would give your eyes a break from the orange blog background...so hope you enjoy the new sleek blue and black!!
Ok, well we finally have a normal "week" around FBCG, but we still have some great things going on church-wide that we want you to be aware of so here we go....
1. IGNITE is TONIGHT!! We'll be closing out our 3-week series on dating tonight by talking about being single...I know, I know....it seems weird to talking about being single while talking about dating, but the truth is that this is the "relationship status" that most of our students currently find themselves in...so we're gonna talk about being okay with being single (your welcome, dads!) and how that lines up with the world's view of singles. We'll have some good discussion and some good fun so SEND YOUR YOUTH!! Doors to The Attic open @ 5:45!
2. Sunday will be a fun day here at FBCG....during Sunday School our students will be diving back into the book of Luke, which they started last week.....we'll be dedicating our new Sanctuary in both services, and following the second service we'll be getting together as a church family for a picnic lunch at Moss-Wright park. Praying for some sunshine and good weather!
3. We will not have Bible studies this Sunday night.
4. Next Wednesday night, May 2nd we will be having BIGNITE at Moss-Wright Park where we will play some kickball and also grill out some burgers and dogs...it's free to the students and we'll be at the park from 5:30-7:30. More info coming your way next week!
That's all for this week...Here's some food for thought as we close out:
Turn Off the Lights by Carey Nieuwhof
There are two kinds of people who live in a house: People who leave the lights on, and people who turn the lights off after others who have left the room and forgotten to.
I am the second type. I spend most of my free time walking around our house turning off lights (okay, maybe that's an exaggeration.), but I must confess that something bad happens inside me when I see an empty room with the lights on. I start wondering: "How could responsible, mature people be this inconsiderate and this irresponsible? I mean, really, how difficult is it to remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room? You seem to be able to remember to turn them on. How could your memory be that horrendous?"
I think, honestly, this describes something that happens to almost all of us with the people we know the best. Their little quirks, shortcomings and character flaws annoy us more than they ought to.
Which makes it very difficult to truly honor the people we live with, doesn't it? Isn't it strange that it's easier for most of us to honor someone we don't know than it is to honor someone we see all the time?
It's easier to gather in a public forum to honor a hero we've never met who has come home from service overseas than it is to honor a hero in your own home.
Why is that? The answer, I think, is that we simply know the people we live with better.
If we got around the strangers and acquaintances we hold in high esteem, we would learn that they have their shortcomings and character flaws. They may have done some remarkable things, but often it was within the context of a sea of mistakes, just like the rest of us.
Now, watch what happens to most of us. Because we don't know the strangers we honor well, we fill in the gap of information that we don't know by assuming the best about them. I'm sure they turn off all the lights when they leave the room, after all, they received a congressional medal of honor.
And for many of us, that's the difference - we assume the best of people we know the least, and as difficult as it is to admit, we assume the worst of the people we know best.
When faced with a gap in information at home, we assume that they did the wrong thing, not the right thing. The lights are on in the living room and you don't even need to be told who did it; you KNOW, because he/she always, always, always leaves the lights on.
Now tell me, when you confront them about the lights, how does that conversation usually go? Exactly. It's a no-win.
So why not change your assumption about the people you live with? Why not decide there's a perfectly good explanation as to why they forgot to turn off the lights/empty the dishwasher/do their homework? Why don't you assume they meant to, but forgot? Got called away by something urgent? Left the room to help someone else? Were coming back to get it done but you just happened to walk in early?
Three things will happen.
- First, you'll have a lot less conflict in your home.
- Second, you'll feel better about the people you live with, and they'll feel better about you. You will begin to honor each other.
- Third, people might actually start turning off the lights. Because you've treated them as responsible people who tend to do these things. People have a way of becoming what we believe about them.
What have you learned about assuming the worst of believing the best? Why do you think you find it difficult to believe the best about the people around you?
What do you guys think....you know we have a comments section here on the blog so feel free to interact, let me know if you agree or disagree and your experiences!
Have a great Wednesday!
Jeff
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